Totally agree on the first point. I normally adjust to the looser end of the spec. On the latter, however, I disagree. Over time, the valves tend to beat themselves into the seat in the cylinder head, causing the lash to actually decrease (tighten) rather than increase. Excessive valve lash will cause noise but little else, but insufficient lash will eventually lead to the valve failing to seal, and the valve burning. Normally there is no valve noise associated with this!
On Hondas, normally the first symptom is rough running or inability to idle when hot (the valve stem height is greatest, and lash least, when hot). If this symptom is recognized quickly and a proper valve adjustment done, damage may be averted.
Not trying to be a know-it-all! Obviously it's your car and your own risk calculation is the only one that matters. Just trying to share some experience on the topic.