Everyone,
Before this gets too far out of hand:
There are far more people who come along here, don't register, don't post, and just lurk. I have no idea who or what is reading this site. I get 35,000 hits per month, and push about 2-3gb per month in traffic. To say that this site is popular is an understatement. I would surmise that 90% of those people come here with an appreciation of the area, and are good, honest people. It's the other 10% that I am worried about. The last thing I want to see is a Geocache placed at the location of the graves, or any other "sensitive" spot. (Sorry Ken, not to single out Geocachers, but it would bring in a lot of foot traffic.)
All it takes are a few people to go in, beat down a trail, and then voila, Joe Sixpack and the WeirdNJ crew come in and trash the place.
It's not just the location of graves. Nobody wants to post locations of rare plants or other fragile treasures or sites. The risk is too great.
Does this mean that I don't condone people searching for the site? No - I want you to look for it. Being out in the Pines, searching for old, forgotten history is what this site is all about. Who you tell once you find it is your business, and the repercussions of your actions falls on your shoulders. All I ask is that you do not post specific directions to the site here. That would be the fastest way to get yourself banned from here.
It's a judgement call as to what is "sensitive" and what should be shared. We post a lot of directions to get to places, but most of the times the places that we post are well known, or can handle the traffic of visitors. If you are on the fence about posting something, ask me first before you post.
Nobody is pointing anybody out, accusing anybody of being a grave robber, or a vandal. If you have a problem with someone, PM them and discuss it offline - there is no room for flame wars on this message board.